It should be of no shock at this point that we are not designed to be monogamous. One only need to review the countless news stories of men and women who have been caught unfaithful to their spouse. The media dives into a frenzy whenever a high level politician or lawmaker is caught in compromising photos, or the infidelity is revealed through shadowy sources.
We love that. We love to see someone succumb to their primal instincts. It reminds all of us that these supposed lofty elites are still chimps in their double helix.
Maybe someday we will decide as a species that perhaps we should allow our partners one night a year to fulfill those other urges that make up their psyche. Men should admit they are no prize and not capable of giving a woman everything she wants. A communal ‘purge night’ where the aim is not the death of undesirables but the death of lust. How many would be willing to trade 30 nights for 30 years of strong oak love?
For men, the cut and shape of a woman combined with the tone of flesh is a contrast against all backgrounds. Something he is able to spot across a field or crowded venue. It is a curse of sorts for men but if it were left to the female species to ensure procreation, we would have died out long ago.
Men, more so than women is certainly not designed to be monogamous. Look at the over production of sperm if you need biological evidence. While I am certain that women exist who can be just as randy as a man, for the most part men have earned the title of ‘dogs’. Having only ever been a man I will speak to that.
All men secretly want to sleep with all women. It is a fact of life, something men need to admit to themselves in order to move forward as a human being. Certain men are unable to control themselves and became the rapists of our world. Others control themselves long enough until they can move on to the next conquest or keep several past and potential conquests on the dangle at the same time. The reason Playboy sells every month is because the woman on the cover changes, not because the content does. And yet others never get to partake in any of it.
Some men keep it together for a very long time and then suddenly explode in a shower of promiscuity once they fully realize that they are going to die having only slept with 2-3 women in their entire life.
Then there is the final man. The one who realizes that he is trapped in a body that wants to reproduce, or partake in the action that would allow him to do so but understands that in today’s culture it is essentially Pandora’s Bomb, not box. So much waits for the man who is able to realize this and gain the self knowledge that he will always lust, but that love must be earned. Not only from a woman but from himself. To do this he must figure out who he is and find someone to love that person. ——————Love ya Riss.